End of the Road….?

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Grief is like toothache, many people have experienced it and they have an idea of what you’re feeling, but the pain is personal to you and they will never really know what it’s like. It comes and goes in waves, you think you’re over it but then something happens to set it off again. You have no idea how long it’s going to go on for, and there’s not much you can do to stop it.

That’s how I feel after the death of my dad last week. He went into hospital on 23rd January for a routine hip operation, and we all expected that this week we would be needing to find ways to keep him in his chair resting, knowing that he would want to be up and about at the earliest opportunity. Instead, the operation caused a blood clot which went on to his lung and lead to further complications. He passed away on the morning of 26th Jan.

Dad was a citizen of the world. He spent his life travelling, firstly in the Army, then through his work designing, selling and installing quarry and asphalt plant, and latterly as a motorcycling adventurer. We lost count of the number of countries he had visited in his lifetime, and his Facebook page includes contacts from across the globe. We’ve been overwhelmed by the many tributes and anecdotes from his friends, many of whom experienced his enthusiasm, inspiration and spirit of adventure as he took part in numerous organised runs across India and the Himalaya by Enfield motorcycle, forming links with an amazing group of people who obviously held him in high regard. My own experiences travelling with him to Germany are the subject of a previous blog.

Dad was a modest man but he was secretly proud to be showing the younger guys how it should be done, especially when many of those younger guys were well into retirement themselves. To be riding the highest roads in the world across rough terrain, rockfalls and heavy fords was a great achievement in itself, to be doing it in your mid-80s is pretty special.

I learned a lot from my father over his lifetime, and I’ll pick up on some of the key things in a future post. For now, it’s enough to record that he is no longer with us and that our family is in mourning. His funeral is on Tuesday 14th February in Loughborough, and there’s a lot to do before then to make sure we give him a great send-off.

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About Andy Jervis

Welcome to my blog site. I've spent 30 years building a business - Chesterton House Group - designed to help people to achieve financial freedom, so that's my main interest and the core focus of my writings. True financial freedom isn't just about having enough money to do the things you want, it's about having a great relationship with money so that you can live in balance and get the most out of life. The best advice I ever had was to 'live each day as though it were your last, but plan as though you'll live forever.' I hope you enjoy the blog. Andy

8 thoughts on “End of the Road….?

  1. I have always looked upto Ted and quite often remembers in my talks. It was wonderful being part of Adventures that we did together including riding to the highest roads in the world. What a man and now what a soul. Thank you for wonderful moments that we spend together and your appreciation for my driving in no man’s land. RIP my friend.

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  2. Andy
    As we know from recent experience it helps a lot to share these life events and I am am sure that family and friends will help, keep talking.
    During our business discussions you have on several occasions talked about your Father and his motorcycle exploits he sounds like my sort of guy. If ever my long talked about trip to India happens I will certainly give a Royal Enfield a go.

    Give him a good send off.

    Geoff and Frances Dilks

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  3. Si sorry to hear of your loss Andy, but what an inspiration your dear Dad was to you and the family and to all his friends near and far. Tena joins with me in sending our profound condolences to you all the family on your sad loss.
    David & Tena Smith

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  4. So sorry to read your very sad news. I do empathise with you. The added shock of a sudden, unexpected death makes it so much harder to bear. Our thoughts are with you.
    Denise and Stephen Brook

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  5. Very sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. Clearly he had a very full life – one that most of us would envy. You do feel the shock even more when the event is sudden and unexpected. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
    Simon and Gulzar Matthews.

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  6. Pingback: Looking forward to an Indian Adventure | Andy Jervis's Financial Freedom Blog

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